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Michael and Lauryn's answers to your frequently asked questions about mindset, business and wellness.

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What is your marriage advice for when you start having kids?

Put the relationship before the kids. I say this all the time. Continue to date each other and avoid becoming co-parents and roommates. You still need to work at having a sexy, loving, fun relationship, and that will benefit your kids. It can’t all be about them and being a parent. We regularly go out without the kids and they understand why. It makes us better as a whole family.

Bond is 4 weeks old and we just went on a date the other night. The relationship has to be a priority. We take walks, sauna together, read together and everything else follows. When we’re going out we tell our kids that we each love each other so much and we need time to be together alone, and they’re starting to understand it. We want them to see a marriage where their parents are happy and in love.

I also think you need to overcommunicate and allow grace. You’re going to be tired, you’re going to be stressed, you’re going to be burnt out. Take a beat before jumping down each other’s throats and understand that you’re both adjusting and getting used to a new way of life.
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How do I not lose my cool during newborn life?

When it’s your first, it can be a lot. This is my third time with a newborn so I know what I’m in for. After your first, you’re not nearly as jumpy, watching them breath, worried about their sleep, or concerned with routines. You realize it all goes out the window at some point anyways.

We remind ourselves all the time that we’re not the first people to be parents. People have been having kids forever in much harder times, so you’ll get through it.

Try to be grateful and savor this stage because you’ll realize how fast it all goes. Try to enjoy it because once the ‘first’ thing happens: rolling over, crawling, walking, it doesn’t stop. So my advice is to slow down, enjoy it and don’t wish the time away.

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Do you guys fight in front of your kids? And how do you resolve conflict?

We do not have big fights in front of our kids. We may argue and discuss, but we never yell or fight about big things in front of them. We will disagree, discuss and resolve small conflicts and disagreements in front of them. It’s important to us that they always see us resolve whatever the issue is.

We have pretty adult conversations in front of our kids, and sometimes even bring them into it, explaining and discussing together. We treat them as grownups, to an extent, not little babies.

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When did you know you wanted to start having a family?

I’ve always known that I wanted to have a family. For us, it was figuring out the right moment, but there is never a right moment. If you find the right person, having children is by far the most rewarding experience there is. We talk about it all the time. Out of all the successes and accomplishments, having a family is the greatest joy for us.

When we were in our 30s, we were on vacation, and we just decided that we'd dated, gotten engaged, married, and had done a ton of fun stuff. We’d traveled, worked and decided that if we were sitting in this same position next year, it would just be the same thing, in the same place, with the same people. It was going to get repetitive. There's nothing wrong with that, but for us, we wanted to start doing those things in a different way, with our own family. It did feel like this moment where we realized we’d done all these things and were ready to bring a different meaning to our lives.

HER: Lauryn Bosstick

How do you do it all with 2 kids and a newborn?

It’s a juggle, but I always want to be transparent about the fact that I have help. Also, Michael is a very hands-on dad. At the moment I’m really enjoying this newborn stage. You realize after you have one or two kids how fast the newborn stage goes. It’s so sweet and special, even though it can seem hard sometimes.

With your 2nd and 3rd, you know more too. I’m not so strict on schedules with Bond right now, and I did take some time off for maternity leave. So every day we’re spending lots of time together and just enjoying the summer being present.

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What baby wipes do you use? And what is your favorite baby stuff, now that you’re on your third?

I use Coterie wipes and diapers. They’re the cleanest I’ve found (Taylor Dukes agrees). You can use code SKINNY20 for 20% off. I also like the Honest dry wipes. Other favorites right now:

• ​Wipe warmer​
• ​Breast pump and pumping bra​
• Bumpsuit waist trainer and carrier​
• ​Cozy Earth blanket​
• ​Snuggle Me lounger​

Keep an eye on my LTK page because I’ve been posting a lot of what I’m actually finding useful.
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How to keep sex spicy after being married for a while?

We prioritize each other. That means date nights, time together, and staying intimate. But it goes beyond the bedroom.

For me, I always try to stay well-read and I have my own things going on, which helps conversation flow, and gives us new things to talk about when we do have time together. I also think that knowing each other’s love language is helpful.

When it comes to sex, after a few years you do need to put in some effort to keep it fresh. Get some new lingerie, initiate sex in a different area of the house at a different time of day, role play, and if you’re both super busy, schedule sex, but make it fun. Text about it throughout the day, send pics and build some anticipation. There are more tips on the blog.

Also, try some toys. Woo’s new mushroom vibez with some coconut oil lube will definitely spice things up.

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What are your favorite postpartum drinks, snacks, and practices? What does your wellness look like right now?

Every morning I’ve been having 2 scoops of this collagen (use code SKINNY). It’s got 30 grams of protein and I add it to Beauty Salt before I have coffee. And trust me, this is the best frother.

I’ll have a mold-free coffee, then after that I have bone broth (use code SKINNY). I’m still really focused on protein.

I’ve been boosting my mood and lowering stress by getting morning sunlight at around 7 am. When I do this I’ll meditate, read or pump. I’ve been reading a lot. I recently finished I Regret Almost Everything and 10/10 recommend it.

Right now I have about 30 lbs to lose, but I’m not stressed about it at all. I’ve seen how weightlifting and lots of protein has changed my body, and my life, so I know that it’ll fall off in due time. My plan is to do lots of hot/cold therapy, red light therapy, heavy/medium weights, lots of walking, Pilates by Bryony and Pvolve, along with a meal plan by The Flexible Dieting Coach.

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